I listened to this TED Talk last night and oh my God, her story from the very beginning of the charming man who wanted to know all about her and who told her a story of his own experience of being beaten, is almost IDENTICAL to mine.
Now I wasn’t beaten in my last relationship, but I was mentally and emotionally abused. Neither is nice and neither is acceptable.
My favourite part of the talk can be seen below and the reason it’s my favourite is because these words were the same words I said when I was trying to justify his shitty behaviour:
“Back to my question: Why did I stay? The answer is easy. I didn’t know he was abusing me. Even though he held those loaded guns to my head, pushed me down stairs, threatened to kill our dog,pulled the key out of the car ignition as I drove down the highway, poured coffee grinds on my headas I dressed for a job interview, I never once thought of myself as a battered wife. Instead, I was a very strong woman in love with a deeply troubled man, and I was the only person on Earth who could help Conor face his demons.”
Thank God we both saw the light.