“I feel it in my fingers, I feel it in my toes, Love is all around me, And so the feeling grows.”
At least, that’s what the lyrics say anyway. It seems though, that many people around the world believe it’s something that needs to be found, rather than something that needs to be made.
Think of all the songs, movies, TV shows, books and magazine articles that focus on the topic of love and then think of how many of them are about things like, ‘how to find love in your 20s, 30s etc.,’ how to know that he or she’s THE ONE,’ or ‘how to attract that guy or girl you like.’
Of course, finding a partner and someone else who loves you is impossible if you don’t love yourself first. In other words, you need to cultivate love of yourself, before going in search of love with someone else. Finding love then, IS not and SHOULD not be the main priority; cultivating love and then spreading love, should be.
This was quite a revelation to me and it was like a lightbulb suddenly went on in my brain and I thought to myself, wow, people are going about this whole love thing the wrong way. We have been taught and conditioned in society to think that love is something you must find. No. Instead, it’s something you first need to create in yourself and then for others.
For those of you who are’t convinced or don’t believe me, think of it this way. If something you want doesn’t exist, what do you do? You make it. Think of how many inventions were created because there was a need for them. Instead of waiting around for someone else to make it, the person did it for themselves. The same goes for love.
Now in many cases, the word, ‘love,’ is associated primarily with romantic feelings but what I’m talking about here is love in general. Sure, romantic love is important, but so are other types of love: love between friends, love between family members and even love between humans and their pets.
Whatever kind of love you think of, it can be manifested through visualisation and through the belief that you are making and sharing love with everyone and indeed, everything you meet. One of my friends uses the phrase, “throwing love,” and she often uses it when she’s feeling the complete opposite to some people or situations. When I visualize that phrase I imagine throwing something akin to a giant water bomb or balloon filled with red, ‘love,’ that shatters on impact and covers the person or object from head-to-toe. This morning when I happened to get slightly annoyed at a driver for not indicating, I immediately caught myself and used that image. My irritation dissipated immediately. My advice is to ‘throw love,’ at everything, every single day. By doing this you are spreading love and passing something on becomes contagious. Other people will start to do the same thing and by the end of the day you have touched numerous lives with happiness and a feeling of worthiness and… love.
One way to do this is to send text or social media messages to people saying you wanted to share the love and ask them to pass it on to one or more people on their contact list.
If you don’t expect anything in return, you will find that you will be rewarded even more because you are sharing something with others simply because you want to, not because you want to get something back. Selfless types of acts cultivate an even greater sense of love.
Most importantly, I believe that sharing love without being scared of what someone will think or say, or how they will react, results in even more love being cultivated. Too often we fear that the other person doesn’t love us back and so we refrain from saying anything. That isn’t the way to love or to even live your life. I used to be afraid to say how I felt, especially when I felt something as strong as love, but now I’m not. You need to say it because it spreads love and once you begin to spread love, it grows and grows.
At least, that’s what the lyrics say anyway. 🙂