The Critical Life and Times of “Insert Name Here”

As someone with a blog and therefore, a public platform to ‘name and shame’ people, I could technically drop a few here, but that would be both unprofessional and immature on my part. In other words, I might not be impressed with them, but I’m not a bitch. Human beings are a particularly critical species.Of course, some of this can be attributed to our nature, however, we cannot always shift the blame and need to take responsibility for how we think, act and feel towards both ourselves and others. Growing up I learned that letting others dictate how I felt about myself was the first step to a life of self-loathing. I was constantly being told by one man that I was either too skinny, too fat, had bad skin, was studying too much or that I wasn’t doing enough. Luckily I realized that it didn’t matter what I did, I would never please this person. It took many, many years before I could see that his words and actions spoke more about how he felt about himself, than it did about me. It took a long time for me to stop trying to please him. I was constantly disappointed, more with myself than with him because I gave him a second, third, fourth chance but to no avail. In the end I did the only possible thing I could do: I removed him from my life. It was perhaps one of the best things I could have done for my personal growth. I became strong, I learned to love myself and most importantly of all, I became a better person. The past few weeks I have come to see that a certain other person in my life is almost a reincarnation of this man. Just last night I heard the same words come out of his mouth. This time though I am strong enough and smart enough to know that none of it is true. In the past I might have felt sorry for someone who was obviously so uncomfortable and insecure in their own skin that they had to criticize others, but this time I know straight away what I have to do. In the words of Judge Judy, “Goodbye.”


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